Quality of our lives depends on the decisions we make.
Although we may try to make the best decisions we can, we are not able to control the outcome as the things can go not as we planned or wanted due to outside circumstances.
What we can do is to prepare ourselves to various outcomes and manage risks or try to learn to manage risks.
There are many factors which may influence the decisions we make in our lives. I would like to focus on two which are now on my mind:
- fear and
- limiting beliefs.
Fear has both positive and negative aspects in life. The positive side can save us from doing unreasonable or unsafe things. In this aspect it’s a mechanism related to alerting and protecting.
On the other hand – fear can also limit our life. Both fear and limiting beliefs may become a self-imprisonment which block our full potential.
Do you have a life you want and/or deserve? If not, ask yourself, how many times:
- You don’t take “managed risk” out of fear?
- You stay in your comfort zone.
- You do the jobs below your competencies, knowledge, and skills?
- You don’t take an action out of fear of rejection, judgement, criticism, or fear of failure?
- You don’t take an action out of fear of losing money?
- You don’t take an action out of fear “what others will say if I do not succeed?”
The best you can do is to learn to manage risks and ask the questions what’s behind of the fear and limiting beliefs. If you are stuck in certain areas of your life, what are the payoffs which keeps you there? If you identify them, it will be much easier to make the decisions.
The fear will never go away, until you are growing. It’s not about suppressing it. It’s about accepting it and doing anyway the things which have to be done.
There’s a famous quote:
You didn’t fail because you didn’t succeed, you succeed because your tried.
If you are interested in the subject, I recommend a book “Fear the fear and do it anyway” by Susan Sanders. There are plenty of in-depth questions and tips which help you to step into the journey you really want to participate. A journey of a quality and fulfilled life.
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